Planning for Summer Visitation as a Single Dad
It can feel overwhelming when you, as a single dad, are planning for the summer visitation time with your children. While it is normal to experience stress and anxiety regarding summer visitation, particularly if you do not have 50/50 custody and do not see your children often, with some planning and preparation, both you and your children can have a summer vacation/visitation that is memorable for all involved.
If you and your ex are on good terms following the divorce, it should be easier to plan for summer visitation than if you barely speak to one another. Whatever your situation, plan to make this summer visitation an experience your children will be reliving and talking about for months and years. If you have questions regarding custody and visitation issues, talk to an experienced divorce attorney who can comprehensively answer your questions and guide you through the process.
Tips for the Best Summer Visitation
There are some things you can do that will help ensure a great time with your children this summer. Most of them are fairly simple and take little time, but they could make the difference between a disaster and an outstanding success. Some of these tips include:
Make Sure You Are Familiar with Your Custodial Agreement
Reviewing your current custody agreement before you begin planning your summer is always a good idea. Your custody agreement should outline the rights and responsibilities of each parent and should let you know how much time you are entitled to during the summer months. If you are planning a specific trip for you and your children that might require some accommodation by your ex-spouse, start early to ensure there are no disappointments.
Have a Plan for the Summer
Once you have a summer visitation plan in mind, discuss it with the children’s other parent. This allows expectations to be set, minimizing the potential for misunderstandings. Let your ex know the exact dates and at least a general itinerary for the time. A schedule of the proposed activities can allow your ex to suggest things that could make your summer easier. Scheduling planned activities is great, but leave a little room for spontaneous activities as well.
For example, you may not know that your preteen daughter no longer swims because she is self-conscious about her changing body. Knowing this can save you from booking a two-week trip at a beach resort. Try not to go into the discussion with a defensive attitude, and be ready to compromise, at least a little.
Always Have a Contingency Plan and Be Prepared to Be Flexible
When dealing with children, flexibility is essential, and having a Plan B (an indoor activity if it rains instead of a day at the local swimming pool) and even a Plan C is wise. Illnesses, work emergencies, changes in travel plans, or teenage angst can all wreak havoc with your plans, so make sure you are ready with a backup plan.
Prepare the Children for the Summer Visitation
Discussing your summer plans with the children is also crucial for success. Children feel more secure when they know what is happening. If your children are very young, taking them on a trip can be more difficult, especially if they typically spend the bulk of their time with their mother. Involve older children in the planning process and address any concerns or anxieties the children may have.
Pack Comfort Items Along with Essentials
Make a checklist for you and the children to ensure nothing important is left out. Appropriate clothing for the planned activities, toiletries, medications, and any special items the children may need for activities go on the list. If your children have "comfort" items such as a "blankie," a favorite toy, or books they love, bringing them along gives them a sense of security.
Speak to a Knowledgeable Divorce Lawyer for Father’s Rights
Divorce is difficult, and custody issues can be even more so. When you spend less time with your children because of divorce, making this summer visitation a resounding success is important. When necessary, obtain legal advice from a skilled divorce attorney who can help you through these often complex issues relating to custody and visitation.
